How To Calm Someone Down Over Text. Show her that you would probably feel the same way if you were in her position. Physical touch can be in form of a pat on the back, holding hands or a caress.

Reciting phrases is just one way to calm yourself down when you have anxiety. Advising them to take ‘time out’ is also a good idea because ‘thinking time’ can help to diffuse any situation. If you do speak, keep a quiet level voice.